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BELOVED, ENGAGEMENT

Anytime: Katherine & Josh | Bishop Arts District

06.05.2012

There are times when inspiration hits and you just have to do something about it. Or, rather, I just had to do something about it.

I’ve known Katherine for almost a year now, and when I met her for the first time, I knew that there was something about her. Like, we connected and were meant to be friends. Well, at least that’s how I felt. We exchanged emails and Facebook messages for months before we finally got together over coffee, and if we didn’t have to go home and spend time with our husbands that evening, we probably would have chatted for a few more hours.

That’s when I told Katherine that I needed to photographer her and Josh (her hubby). Needed to. Last week, the stars finally aligned (before it was too freakin’ hot) and I photographed them in the Bishop Arts District in Dallas. I LOVE these photos and LOVE them as a couple! They are my ideal couple…laid back, super fun, and up for just about anything. Oh, and they’re super cute.

Okay, on to the photos!

This. THIS is my favorite photo to date.

And Josh’s face here, makes this one a close second.

Thank you to Katherine & Josh, you two are amazing!!

CLIENTS, RANDOM

Long Distance Love: Part 1

10.18.2011

Often, it’s a question that comes up.

After I explain that I grew up in California and now live in Texas, and my husband was an army brat who grew up all over the country, it’s usually a question that comes up. “How did you meet each other?”

I take a deep breath, because I know the reaction that will follow.

“Florida.”

Usually, looks of surprise or confusion start to surface on their face, which launches me into further explanation.

“No, we didn’t meet on Spring Break. We met as interns at Disney World after college.”

Then, I’ll break it down into how we got to where we are now. Whenever I look back at how far we’ve come, from being apartments apart to states and time zones away from each other, I think, “Well, I’m glad we don’t have to do that anymore.” Trust me, long distance relationships are not for the faint of heart.

It’s typically a question I get asked in the midst of our story. “How did you work your long-distance relationship?” And when I say that Cent and I dated for 3 years long distance, jaws drop, and responses include “Congratulations”, “That’s amazing”, and “I could never do that.”

So that led me to whip up this blog series on long-distance relationships. I’m far from an expert, and I’m writing from my limited experience, but I think that with three years experience, I have a few tips to share.

5 Things to Consider in a Long Distance Relationship

1. DECIDE. Long distance relationships are not easy and they are not for everyone. If you’re serious about making your long distance relationship work, you’ll need to really decide and commit to making this work. Talk about it with your partner. What is the distance you’ll be separated? How often do you want/can you see each other? How long will you be separated for? A few months, a few years, indefinitely? Is this person worth it? In some cases, that person may not be. In other cases, that person may be the one. It’s a personal decision, and it’s a big one. Cent and I are evidence that a long distance relationship can work.

2. INDEPENDENCE. I think it’s incredibly important for each partner to be independent. What I mean by that is that you need to have your own life without your boyfriend or girlfriend. You need to have your own set of friends and be comfortable hanging out with friends in lieu of your significant other. If you’re a co-dependent personality, a long distance relationship is probably not for you. If Cent was my only friend, and I had to live 2,000 miles away, I don’t know that it would have worked out very well, and the reverse is true. Because we each had our lives (between visits), I didn’t feel dependent on him for human contact, and later, when we caught up with each other on the phone, we had things to talk about.

3. COMMUNICATION. Figure out how you’ll be communicating with each other when you’re not together. Is that the phone, e-mail, Skype, smoke signals? It’s paramount in a long distance relationship to know when you’ll be touching base and catching up with each other. When we first started dating, it was still back when “Night & Weekend” minutes mattered on cell phones, especially with separate carriers. Cent was living in Georgia, and I was in California. With a three hour time difference, and having to wait until 9pm in California, which was midnight in Georgia…it made it a little complicated during the week. Once we were both on AT&T, with unlimited mobile to mobile minutes, it made things a million times easier.

4. PLAN. One of the things that made our long distance relationship easier was that we would plan on when we would see each other next. At least as much as possible. We would take turns flying to California and to Texas about every 8-10 weeks. I think the longest we went without seeing each other (which was the most difficult) was about 12 weeks. Too long when you’re in the same country, in my opinion. One of the minor perks was racking up a bunch of frequent flyer miles with all the flying, although, I am thankful I’m not on a plane all the time anymore. By planning when you’ll see each other next, you’ll have a goal date to look forward to, which will help the weeks in between pass faster.

5. COMMIT. I dare to say that many long distance relationships don’t work because either party isn’t fully committed. Long distance relationships are not for everyone. There are some people in my life that I know would fail miserably at one because of their personality or commitment issues. If you succumb easily to temptation, then a long distance relationship is probably not for you. If you want to make your long distance relationship work, you need to be committed. You need to be able to live your life away from your significant other, while still being in a committed relationship. For me, being in a committed long distance relationship made things simpler in some ways. I didn’t feel the pressure that some of my friends did when going out and trying to meet someone. Instead, I knew that I could go home, call Cent, and tell him funny stories of what happened that night.

These are just some thoughts to consider if you’re in the midst of thinking about doing long distance. It’s totally doable, for the right couples. In fact, I was just thinking about it and three of my couples last year were in a long distance relationship of some sort, and I shot all their weddings, so they are also proof that you can work a long distance relationship.

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PERSONAL

Happy Birthday Love

03.09.2011

I often tell Cent that it’s weird to call him by his first name. To his face.

And that it’s weird when he calls me by my first name. To my face.

He always asks me, “Why?”

To me, it’s totally normal in conversation with someone else to mention him in third person by his name, but when it comes to calling him by name, to his face, it’s strange. I know, I’m weird. What can I say? The comforts of terms of endearment have taken over.

To my wonderful husband, on your birthday,

Today is your birthday. I remember when we first met and I quickly realized that our birthdays were exactly two weeks apart. And the nerd in me thought that was really cool. I know, it’s more strange than cool, but you loved me anyway. And I know you’re so not big on celebrating your birthday, but I like making a big deal anyway because it marks another year that we’ve spent together in this little thing we call life.

You bring a smile to my face, each and every day. From the time you say goodbye as you leave for work in the morning and through the moment I hear your keys in the front door at the end of the work day. And after finding this photo from a few years ago, it’s clear to me why you won “Best Smile” in high school. Your smile is totally a winner.

Happy birthday my love. Because you know what? Saying Happy Birthday Cent would be weird! :)

Happy Wednesday!

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